Negotiating With Children - 05/01/14

  I was perusing the morning headlines and came across this new study (isn't there always a new study?)
  Well, this one distinguishes the subtle nuance between phrases that will get your children to clean up their mess.  Someone actually took the time, energy and money to study whether we should say to our younger kids... "Some children are helpers,"  or "Some children choose to help."  The study found the former, not the latter, was 29% more effective at getting preschoolers to clean up.
    I don't need some study to tell me which word to use when.  Little Johnny... you made the mess, we had fun making it, now it's time to clean it up.  Plain and simple.  That's just the way the world works.  I think negotiating with children, beginning at a young age... is dangerous.  There are expectations, responsibilities, a natural order to life that we need to implant into our children starting early. It's non negotiable.
    We started having our kids sort the silverware from the dishwasher at age
4 1/2.  I praised them profusely for a job well done and they found great satisfaction in contributing to our home.  It enhanced their self esteem to feel so useful in our family dynamic.  Since then, we've added more age appropriate responsibilities. (I call them responsibilities, not chores.)  Currently, they fold towels, empty the dishwasher, feed the dogs, water the garden, and clean up their messes.  They earn $2 a week.  
    We started early outlining the expectations.  Everyone works and contributes in our home. There's no free ride.  I never said, "Some children are helpers" and I certainly never said "Some children choose to help."  It's not a choice.  Never has been. Never will be.  Parents who do that are raising mediocrity and doing their kids a disservice.  The real world doesn't give you a choice about being responsible or helping or contributing or earning your own way.  The real world requires this. 
    At our house, we live in the real world.  I'm not negotiating with my kids. I'm raising good citizens.  Here's that silly study if you care to read:

http://www.today.com/moms/learn-secret-word-will-get-your-preschooler-help-clean-2D79599714?__source=xfinity|hero&par=xfinity

 

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RICK SPRINGFIELD-YOUR BUTT IS FINE WITH US

SYRACUSE, N.Y. (AP) -- Rock musician Rick Springfield was a big hit at the opening day of the 2015 New York State Fair. So was his tush.

The singer best known for his 1981 No. 1 hit "Jessie's Girl" had been sued by a New York woman who said she suffered serious head injuries when Springfield's buttocks hit her after he fell off the stage during a concert at the suburban Syracuse fairgrounds in 2004.

In January, he won the seven-year legal battle when a state Supreme Court judge in Syracuse said the performer didn't injure the concert-goer.

The Post-Standard of Syracuse reports that during last night's performance Springfield, who turned 66 Sunday, thanked fans for supporting him during the trial. One fan held up a sign that read: "`'Rick your butt can fall on me anytime."

PREGNANT METEOROLOGIST GIVES BIRTH TO TWINS

PHILADELPHIA (AP) -- A Philadelphia meteorologist who went online to fight back against "haters" critical of her pregnant appearance has given birth to twin girls.

KYW-TV says Katie Fehlinger (FEH'-lin-jer) went into labor after her morning shift Tuesday and delivered the girls Wednesday afternoon.

Parker Janice was born at 12:58 p.m. She weighed 4 pounds, 15 ounces. Kaeden Faye arrived a minute later, weighing 3 pounds, 12 ounces

Fehlinger shot back at critics last week in a Facebook post, attracting national attention and support from thousands of people.

She wrote that the industry makes her an easy target for criticism. But she said it crosses the line to post "nastygrams" about pregnant women.

Fehlinger, a Lehigh Valley native, has been with the station since 2011.

WOMAN TICKETED FOR BREAST FEEDING WHILE DRIVING

SEATTLE (AP) -- A 43-year-old Washington woman was given a $136 ticket this week for breast-feeding while driving.

The Seattle Times reports (http://is.gd/nxbX7D ) the woman was pulled over on Interstate 5 around 7 p.m. Wednesday after someone called 911 to report a child sitting in a driver's lap.

State Patrol spokesman Mark Francis says that when the trooper approached the car, he could tell that the woman was breast-feeding.

The woman admitted she was breast feeding and had done it before because her 1-year-old son screams uncontrollably when he's hungry.

Francis says they had a talk about safety and parental responsibility and the officer issued a ticket for child-restraint violation.

Court records show the woman has a history of driving infractions, including using a cellphone while driving, speeding and following too closely.

NEBRASKA LOTTERY- SCRATCH AND SNIFF

LINCOLN, Neb. (AP) -- Even if it isn't a winner -- a Nebraska lottery ticket could still give you a good whiff.

The Nebraska Lottery says it will be selling Sriracha-scented scratch tickets as part of a new $2 scratch game.

It's called Hot Sriracha, and each ticket contains a scent replicating that of the famous Asian sauce. The game offers three $15,000 top prizes and a total of more than $468,000 in cash prizes.

Acting Nebraska Lottery director Jill Marshall says in a news release that lottery officials think the new game "is the first Sriracha-scented scratch game ever made."

Lottery spokesman Neil Watson said Thursday that tickets are being distributed and may be purchased wherever they're offered.

POLICE TO COMPILE FREQUENT-DRUNKARD LIST

AURORA, Illinois (AP) -- The police department in an Illinois city is going to compile a "habitual drunkard" list to help fight public intoxication.

Aurora Police Department Sgt. Tom McNamara says the list will have "certain clientele" whom police and fire departments see regularly. The (Aurora) Beacon-News reports (http://trib.in/1IhxoVp ) that includes people whom police and fire personnel transport six times or more in a 120-day period.

The City Council approved keeping the list this week as part of an overhaul to city liquor laws. Aurora is west of Chicago.

Police say the goal is public safety. Those on the list won't be able to purchase liquor in Aurora and local businesses are expected to comply.

Authorities say they got the idea from Madison, Wisconsin, which has a similar policy.

 
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